Comments on: My Boyfriend Doesn't Call Me For Days – What Does It Mean? http://why-he-doesnt-call.com/blog/2009/07/12/my-boyfriend-doesnt-call-me-for-days-%e2%80%93-what-does-it-mean/ Why Men Stop Calling And What To Do About It Wed, 18 Apr 2012 03:35:32 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.0.1 By: Sarah http://why-he-doesnt-call.com/blog/2009/07/12/my-boyfriend-doesnt-call-me-for-days-%e2%80%93-what-does-it-mean/comment-page-2/#comment-2919 Sarah Wed, 18 Apr 2012 03:35:32 +0000 http://why-he-doesnt-call.com/blog/?p=185#comment-2919 Check his email! You never know when a guy is cheating! Check his email! You never know when a guy is cheating!

]]> By: Sarah http://why-he-doesnt-call.com/blog/2009/07/12/my-boyfriend-doesnt-call-me-for-days-%e2%80%93-what-does-it-mean/comment-page-2/#comment-2918 Sarah Wed, 18 Apr 2012 03:30:45 +0000 http://why-he-doesnt-call.com/blog/?p=185#comment-2918 He's probably busy. You should tell him that you should just be friends and that you need someone that gives you more attention and care. He's probably busy. You should tell him that you should just be friends and that you need someone that gives you more attention and care.

]]> By: sameoldstory http://why-he-doesnt-call.com/blog/2009/07/12/my-boyfriend-doesnt-call-me-for-days-%e2%80%93-what-does-it-mean/comment-page-2/#comment-2886 sameoldstory Tue, 28 Jun 2011 03:01:24 +0000 http://why-he-doesnt-call.com/blog/?p=185#comment-2886 Hi Ladies, I am having the same issue. It is hard to be in a relationship when you don't have time to be in a relationship. The hard reality is that if you want time and attention that he does not have for you, you will have to wait on him or move on. Sometimes a relationship is not a man’s first priority. And sometimes rightfully so. If he is trying to go to school and do something better with his life, then he may be a catch but he may not be ready for something that takes that amount of time commitment. I travel for work and I let every guy know that I do before we get involved, but I call them or they call me everyday as long as I am in the country. If I am not then I can setup a time where we message each other. Women tend to be better at spending time or making time to spend, if they value people's time and relationships (family, friends, boyfriends, etc). Men are not as organized or can't multi-task but if he is thoughtful, caring, trustworthy, giving, handsome, and only has eyes for you try to find things that will keep you busy. Cause if you have too much time on your hands it will only make things worse. You may even cheat or find another man w/ the same tendencies. Also don't call him, let him call you if he is busy. And finally, set expectations up front before you get involved. Its hard b/c men will call 10 times a day, then they stop calling. They lay on the romance to get you hooked and when you are, they stop cold turkey. At first, my boyfriend of 8 months was always calling and wanting to spend time. He is in school and I was traveling for work every week Mon-Thurs, and I am also in school. We were good, he called, I called, and we saw each other EVERYDAY that I was home. I also had class on Saturday morning. Then in 2.5 months everything flipped flopped. He said that school became difficult for him and he pledged a professional fraternity. I work 50+ hours a week, travel for work, and I go to school too. I felt that it was NO excuse (especially sense it’s a professional fraternity and not one of those social ones). I was thinking we could still see each other Thursday-Sunday. But I saw him less and less. I went 3 weeks without seeing him or hearing from him and he lives one exit up the interstate (literally 3-4 miles). No phone calls, nothing. I would text him and ask if he was okay and he may respond back. Eventually, we broke up. He wanted to get back together, I felt like we should take it slow. But he insisted that I was his girlfriend. So I said ok, cause I love him, knowing that he wasn’t ready. We got back together and I told him that if we are together then we should spend time together and this is my expectation. My thoughts are that if I am alone, I might as well be alone and single or with someone else. After we got back together things were ok for a while, about a month, and now things are starting to fizzle out again. If a person likes being alone or needs a lot of time to themselves ok, I need time too and obviously I’m ok w/ being alone or I wouldn’t travel for work. But neglect and abandonment is something totally different. I try to put up with it b/c we are both in school. But he is not in school during the summer. And its summer, he is just working, and I am working and studying for a test that I have to take to transfer schools to finish my MBA. And I may see him 2x per week which is not bad, but I am the one making the plans for us to see each other. I’m literally taking on the load of the relationship. And its not anything fancy, it is just watching tv or a movie rental together. You have to know what you want. You shouldn’t be clingy that is not good at all but don’t be unhappy. If you want to see each other 2-3 times per week then tell him so. If he doesn’t do the work to make sure that you do see each other then move on. Cause a man will do what he tells you to when he wants you. Otherwise, stay busy if he is busy. But you should not be in a relationship that is not healthy and with a guy that is not ready to be in a relationship. Even if he is a one girl guy that doesn’t mean he is ready to be serious or has time to put forth the effort and hard work it takes for a great relationship. You don’t need that. Hi Ladies,
I am having the same issue. It is hard to be in a relationship when you don't have time to be in a relationship. The hard reality is that if you want time and attention that he does not have for you, you will have to wait on him or move on.

Sometimes a relationship is not a man’s first priority. And sometimes rightfully so. If he is trying to go to school and do something better with his life, then he may be a catch but he may not be ready for something that takes that amount of time commitment.

I travel for work and I let every guy know that I do before we get involved, but I call them or they call me everyday as long as I am in the country. If I am not then I can setup a time where we message each other. Women tend to be better at spending time or making time to spend, if they value people's time and relationships (family, friends, boyfriends, etc). Men are not as organized or can't multi-task but if he is thoughtful, caring, trustworthy, giving, handsome, and only has eyes for you try to find things that will keep you busy. Cause if you have too much time on your hands it will only make things worse. You may even cheat or find another man w/ the same tendencies. Also don't call him, let him call you if he is busy. And finally, set expectations up front before you get involved. Its hard b/c men will call 10 times a day, then they stop calling. They lay on the romance to get you hooked and when you are, they stop cold turkey.

At first, my boyfriend of 8 months was always calling and wanting to spend time. He is in school and I was traveling for work every week Mon-Thurs, and I am also in school. We were good, he called, I called, and we saw each other EVERYDAY that I was home. I also had class on Saturday morning. Then in 2.5 months everything flipped flopped. He said that school became difficult for him and he pledged a professional fraternity. I work 50+ hours a week, travel for work, and I go to school too. I felt that it was NO excuse (especially sense it’s a professional fraternity and not one of those social ones). I was thinking we could still see each other Thursday-Sunday. But I saw him less and less. I went 3 weeks without seeing him or hearing from him and he lives one exit up the interstate (literally 3-4 miles). No phone calls, nothing. I would text him and ask if he was okay and he may respond back. Eventually, we broke up.

He wanted to get back together, I felt like we should take it slow. But he insisted that I was his girlfriend. So I said ok, cause I love him, knowing that he wasn’t ready. We got back together and I told him that if we are together then we should spend time together and this is my expectation. My thoughts are that if I am alone, I might as well be alone and single or with someone else. After we got back together things were ok for a while, about a month, and now things are starting to fizzle out again. If a person likes being alone or needs a lot of time to themselves ok, I need time too and obviously I’m ok w/ being alone or I wouldn’t travel for work. But neglect and abandonment is something totally different. I try to put up with it b/c we are both in school. But he is not in school during the summer. And its summer, he is just working, and I am working and studying for a test that I have to take to transfer schools to finish my MBA. And I may see him 2x per week which is not bad, but I am the one making the plans for us to see each other. I’m literally taking on the load of the relationship. And its not anything fancy, it is just watching tv or a movie rental together. You have to know what you want. You shouldn’t be clingy that is not good at all but don’t be unhappy. If you want to see each other 2-3 times per week then tell him so. If he doesn’t do the work to make sure that you do see each other then move on. Cause a man will do what he tells you to when he wants you. Otherwise, stay busy if he is busy. But you should not be in a relationship that is not healthy and with a guy that is not ready to be in a relationship. Even if he is a one girl guy that doesn’t mean he is ready to be serious or has time to put forth the effort and hard work it takes for a great relationship. You don’t need that.

]]> By: Alissa Q http://why-he-doesnt-call.com/blog/2009/07/12/my-boyfriend-doesnt-call-me-for-days-%e2%80%93-what-does-it-mean/comment-page-2/#comment-2885 Alissa Q Mon, 27 Jun 2011 22:56:58 +0000 http://why-he-doesnt-call.com/blog/?p=185#comment-2885 ok so this is what happened i used to go to skewl with him in 6th grade thts when we started dating were still ating nd im about to go into 9th grade but a few weeks ago he moved out of state and at first the long distance thing was working but he hasnt talked to me in like a week nd yesterday i got a call from him while i was getting my hair cut so i told him i would call him back then when i did he said he would call me when he got home but he didnt call me, so today i saw him on facebook nd i IMed him nd he asked me to txt him cuz he had to get off so we txtd for like two mins and he didnt reply after tht he is always saying he is busy but i dont know with what. i would breakup with him but ive been dating him for 3 yrs nd he is my first boyfriend. but i think he might be getting tired of dating the same person for so long i thing he is cheating on me what should i do? ok so this is what happened i used to go to skewl with him in 6th grade thts when we started dating were still ating nd im about to go into 9th grade but a few weeks ago he moved out of state and at first the long distance thing was working but he hasnt talked to me in like a week nd yesterday i got a call from him while i was getting my hair cut so i told him i would call him back then when i did he said he would call me when he got home but he didnt call me, so today i saw him on facebook nd i IMed him nd he asked me to txt him cuz he had to get off so we txtd for like two mins and he didnt reply after tht he is always saying he is busy but i dont know with what. i would breakup with him but ive been dating him for 3 yrs nd he is my first boyfriend. but i think he might be getting tired of dating the same person for so long i thing he is cheating on me what should i do?

]]> By: alissa http://why-he-doesnt-call.com/blog/2009/07/12/my-boyfriend-doesnt-call-me-for-days-%e2%80%93-what-does-it-mean/comment-page-2/#comment-2884 alissa Mon, 27 Jun 2011 22:46:57 +0000 http://why-he-doesnt-call.com/blog/?p=185#comment-2884 ok just like u said "tired of being played. I want to be with someone who is willing to devote to me the same time, care, & attention i devote to them. Cause i can tell u straight up, this sh*** is for the birds... " he isnt the one for u. u even admitted tht in ur comment so move on find someone who is willing to spend time with u and call u just to hear ur voice its as simple as tht move on girl he isnt worth the time ok just like u said "tired of being played. I want to be with someone who is willing to devote to me the same time, care, & attention i devote to them. Cause i can tell u straight up, this sh*** is for the birds...
" he isnt the one for u. u even admitted tht in ur comment so move on find someone who is willing to spend time with u and call u just to hear ur voice its as simple as tht move on girl he isnt worth the time

]]> By: poppy http://why-he-doesnt-call.com/blog/2009/07/12/my-boyfriend-doesnt-call-me-for-days-%e2%80%93-what-does-it-mean/comment-page-2/#comment-2883 poppy Mon, 27 Jun 2011 17:40:54 +0000 http://why-he-doesnt-call.com/blog/?p=185#comment-2883 i am going out with one really nice guy we went out 3 times i can feel taht he likes me cos when we go out he do lot of things for me he love spending time with me...the problem is he doesnt call me and txt me i've seen him 8 days ago he deosnt call me at all i used to txt him i stoped txting him too i dont know what to do maybe it is over but when i saw him last time he even wanted to give me one of his mobile cos my one is broken i am bit confuesed please help!!! thank you soo muchhh i am going out with one really nice guy we went out 3 times i can feel taht he likes me cos when we go out he do lot of things for me he love spending time with me...the problem is he doesnt call me and txt me i've seen him 8 days ago he deosnt call me at all i used to txt him i stoped txting him too i dont know what to do maybe it is over but when i saw him last time he even wanted to give me one of his mobile cos my one is broken i am bit confuesed please help!!!

thank you soo muchhh

]]> By: Nita http://why-he-doesnt-call.com/blog/2009/07/12/my-boyfriend-doesnt-call-me-for-days-%e2%80%93-what-does-it-mean/comment-page-2/#comment-2881 Nita Fri, 17 Jun 2011 13:25:27 +0000 http://why-he-doesnt-call.com/blog/?p=185#comment-2881 Well, I am in similar situation. Last year, he approached on Facebook. He inboxed me a question. In couple hours, he asked me out on a date. The first couple times I turned him down because He was not my type. His personality, words, and compliments swayed me. I agreed to go out with him, and he could not do it. He gave no explanation. I did not have a problem with it. We continue to talk.. He would text me and call me. We made plans to go out on another date. I get dress and I am waiting on him to come. We live 50 mins away from each other. Text me about 4hrs. later to tell me that he could not do it. He has big opportunity. To make up to me, he said that he would come visit me. The whole week, he promised & never came. Presently, we have not been on a date. We text and talk on the phone. Now, he does not respond to my text, and we barely talk on thephone. He travels all over the country for his job, & he has a young child. I complained about him not responding & not calling me. I always ask why we have not been out and when can I see him? I text him everyday, and he said that it is too much. "He interested in me, but he is so busy. He is not going anywhere. I need be patient and relax." I have started developing feelings for him. I do not understand how you travel all over the country, but you can not make it 50 minutes to see me. I do not understand. When I ask what is up, his answer is I am busy, but relax it will happen. We decided to cool it for a couple weeks. Yesterday was our first dayback talking. He said that I was texting and calling too much. He felt harass. I wanted to know answers & he was not responsing. I asked for couple days. What shoul I do? He is good man, but I need so much more fhim. We decided to take a break for a couple. Well, I am in similar situation. Last year, he approached on Facebook. He inboxed me a question. In couple hours, he asked me out on a date. The first couple times I turned him down because He was not my type. His personality, words, and compliments swayed me. I agreed to go out with him, and he could not do it. He gave no explanation. I did not have a problem with it. We continue to talk.. He would text me and call me. We made plans to go out on another date. I get dress and I am waiting on him to come. We live 50 mins away from each other. Text me about 4hrs. later to tell me that he could not do it. He has big opportunity. To make up to me, he said that he would come visit me. The whole week, he promised & never came. Presently, we have not been on a date. We text and talk on the phone. Now, he does not respond to my text, and we barely talk on thephone. He travels all over the country for his job, & he has a young child. I complained about him not responding & not calling me. I always ask why we have not been out and when can I see him? I text him everyday, and he said that it is too much. "He interested in me, but he is so busy. He is not going anywhere. I need be patient and relax." I have started developing feelings for him. I do not understand how you travel all over the country, but you can not make it 50 minutes to see me. I do not understand. When I ask what is up, his answer is I am busy, but relax it will happen. We decided to cool it for a couple weeks. Yesterday was our first dayback talking. He said that I was texting and calling too much. He felt harass. I wanted to know answers & he was not responsing. I asked for couple days. What shoul I do? He is good man, but I need so much more fhim.

We decided to take a break for a couple.

]]> By: crazy4him http://why-he-doesnt-call.com/blog/2009/07/12/my-boyfriend-doesnt-call-me-for-days-%e2%80%93-what-does-it-mean/comment-page-2/#comment-2880 crazy4him Wed, 08 Jun 2011 02:50:36 +0000 http://why-he-doesnt-call.com/blog/?p=185#comment-2880 Ok ladies, I've got one for you. My honey & i have been dating for about 6 months now. He & I work in the same building. I work in the office area & he works in the back. So how can he even use I'm soo busy as an excuse not to at least stick his head in the door to check me out since he's apparently so busy that he can't make time to call later on in the day??? Idk, i love him so much, but am also tired of being played. I want to be with someone who is willing to devote to me the same time, care, & attention i devote to them. Cause i can tell u straight up, this sh*** is for the birds... Ok ladies, I've got one for you. My honey & i have been dating for about 6 months now. He & I work in the same building. I work in the office area & he works in the back. So how can he even use I'm soo busy as an excuse not to at least stick his head in the door to check me out since he's apparently so busy that he can't make time to call later on in the day??? Idk, i love him so much, but am also tired of being played. I want to be with someone who is willing to devote to me the same time, care, & attention i devote to them. Cause i can tell u straight up, this sh*** is for the birds...

]]> By: Nemo http://why-he-doesnt-call.com/blog/2009/07/12/my-boyfriend-doesnt-call-me-for-days-%e2%80%93-what-does-it-mean/comment-page-1/#comment-2878 Nemo Sun, 05 Jun 2011 03:53:28 +0000 http://why-he-doesnt-call.com/blog/?p=185#comment-2878 Hey im in a similar sitio been with him 5years almost on and off at first he was very attentive with msgs and texts but since past few months hes been distant only contacts me and arranges to see me when he feels like it. The other day he arranged to meet up but stood me up claiming hes tired. I love him alot at times i feel like ending it i almost did a month ago but he talked me out of it saying he loves me but i dont get why he doesnt answer or return my texts till few hours later and its not as if hes busy at work as hes inbetween jobs I dont understand the guy when he says he loves me but why blank my calls i tried talking to him in which he said he will try to change and be how he was like when we first met and it lasts for about 2days and hes back to silence again and when i ask what hes been doing in that time he gets all defensive and acts like he hasnt done anything wrong then accuses me of making him angry I'll see how long this recent episode will go on for and if he wants to carry on im gonna pluck up the courage and end it by next weekend... Wish me luck guys Hey im in a similar sitio been with him 5years almost on and off at first he was very attentive with msgs and texts but since past few months hes been distant only contacts me and arranges to see me when he feels like it. The other day he arranged to meet up but stood me up claiming hes tired. I love him alot at times i feel like ending it i almost did a month ago but he talked me out of it saying he loves me but i dont get why he doesnt answer or return my texts till few hours later and its not as if hes busy at work as hes inbetween jobs

I dont understand the guy when he says he loves me but why blank my calls i tried talking to him in which he said he will try to change and be how he was like when we first met and it lasts for about 2days and hes back to silence again and when i ask what hes been doing in that time he gets all defensive and acts like he hasnt done anything wrong then accuses me of making him angry

I'll see how long this recent episode will go on for and if he wants to carry on im gonna pluck up the courage and end it by next weekend... Wish me luck guys

]]> By: tin tin http://why-he-doesnt-call.com/blog/2009/07/12/my-boyfriend-doesnt-call-me-for-days-%e2%80%93-what-does-it-mean/comment-page-1/#comment-2873 tin tin Sun, 24 Apr 2011 20:06:17 +0000 http://why-he-doesnt-call.com/blog/?p=185#comment-2873 i am in the same situation! please someone suggest something for me!! im going out with this guy and in the start he was soo in to me! he would call, txt me all the time. its been 2 months now and he does not bother to contact me. when i contact him he acts like nothing is wrong. i try and ask him why he has become so busy but he avoids the question. he avoids to discuss any problem and is always in a hurry to get off the phone to me. But when i tell him i want to end it he refuses to. im so confused with what this guy wants its giving me a headache...please could someone suggest what this guy is up to? i rather sort the problem out than end. but the fact is he is not behaving like my boyfriend anymore. i am in the same situation! please someone suggest something for me!!
im going out with this guy and in the start he was soo in to me! he would call, txt me all the time. its been 2 months now and he does not bother to contact me. when i contact him he acts like nothing is wrong. i try and ask him why he has become so busy but he avoids the question. he avoids to discuss any problem and is always in a hurry to get off the phone to me. But when i tell him i want to end it he refuses to. im so confused with what this guy wants its giving me a headache...please could someone suggest what this guy is up to? i rather sort the problem out than end. but the fact is he is not behaving like my boyfriend anymore.

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