Should I Play Hard To Get And Why Playing Hard To Get Never Works

If you wonder what it means playing hard to get, or if you have read the best selling book The Rules, you may have learned that women should play hard to get in order to get the guy. Does it work? Does The Rules book really give you an advantage at getting the guy you want? I have a strong opinion about playing hard to get. I personally think and it has been confirmed by experience that playing hard to get and having your guy on a roller coaster of emotions never does any good. Read this article if you want to know why playing hard to get ruins your chances for a healthy relationship with the man of your dream!

For one, yes, men agree that playing hard to get works with some guys. Again, not all guys, but some. Mainly from my research playing hard to get works with guys who are undesirable. Why? Simply because only an undesirable guy will put up with this kind of crap like missing his calls on purpose, being ambiguous about your intentions with him, turning him down for a date if he didn't call you on Monday to ask you out for Friday, and sitting at home in misery with chips and a DVD instead.

All of this is fake, and this is why it never works.

Now, for some rare women who are psychotic, as in can't function unless the guy calls her every five minutes, panic if he hasn't called for one day, confront him and throw a temper tantrum if he hasn't proposed yet after three dates, etc. those women need to learn not how to play hard to get, but rather how to become a normal person and act within the norms accepted in the society. They need to learn how to not be co-dependent; they need to learn how to be kind; they need to get a life. They don't need to learn how to play hard to get. They simply need to become a normal functional persons with A LIFE!

When you have a life, you don't need to play hard to get. The reason you don't play hard to get is because you are not obsessed with a guy. You have other things in your life that take a priority. Your life does not evolve around your guy, or any guy for that matter. You appreciate having a healthy relationship and a man in your life but only if he RESPECTS you. If he doesn't respect you – he is out.

This is not playing hard to get. This is being NORMAL, not a psychotic crazy monster. This is having confidence and self-respect. This is about having a life.

So, why do women have this need to play hard to get? Simply because they think, fake it until you make it. If this is the case, learn by starting to have a life. Learn to see the whole picture. Ask yourself, does my life evolve around a man in it? If the answer is yes, than you need to change it. You will never be happy and no one, I repeat, NO ONE will make you happy unless and until you make yourself happy. No one is responsible for your happiness but you!

When you are truly happy and authentic, you don't take crap from a guy. You are your own person, not an attachment of a man. And when you are a valuable woman, you don't need to play hard to get. Because playing hard to get is really what it sounds like – playing. When you are truly confident; when you know your self worth, you don't need to play because you will be it. No games here; just a true authentic YOU!

If you feel that you must play hard to get, that means that you don't think of yourself as able to attract a guy by being who you are. This means you are ashamed of yourself. This means you yourself know that unless you play games you will not attract a man. Grow up! Learn to love yourself! If you don't think you are lovable and are worthy of someone else's love, no one will ever think this!